how he defends tht he would commit to our future when he can't even has he discipline to save for our future. After long persuasion and arguments, we ended with opening an account. initially was quite glad when he told me that he will be the on supporting the family regardless how much my earning is. But i offer to share at least 20%. Is an encouragement and assurance to him that i will commit too.

This arguments don't seems to end as every month i need to nag and nag and nag then only the will transfer his savings to this account. I feel very tired of doing it and i don't feel good of doing it. As if i am a bad person but if i don't he won't save and he will give you 101 reasons why he can't save.

but what happens if i don't remind or nag him? he will forgets. like this month. one month of silents and 1 month of no savings. a new month is coming, do you think he will transfer 2 months savings in it?

he also promise to save his bonus for the renovation of house and our wedding. Bonus month is Sept and now is Oct. No transfer of money to our account and do you think he would save??? or would he exhaust all the money for his travels and other things...

If we were to live together, i hate to be the bad person. i rather he has the heart and care for our future but so far...does it proves?